Are you married? Congratulations! When is the wedding going to take place? Just kidding—we know this question is going to make you nervous for a long. However, your wedding date will undoubtedly be the first question raised by your family and friends.
When Should You Choose a Wedding Date?
Each couple's method for choosing a wedding date will be unique, but a smart place to start is to think about how much time you'll need to prepare your special day. The typical engagement lasts approximately 15 months, according to our 2019 Read Wedding Study.
Most couples find that giving themselves at least a year to prepare for their wedding is beneficial. A wedding date set at least a year in advance will allow you to cross everything off your list, including choosing and purchasing your wedding gown (which may take 9 to 11 months) and reserving your wedding reception location (some are booked a year in advance).
In that vein, we suggest locating your ideal location first and seeing what dates they have available before committing to a particular date (or sending out save-the-dates), since they may already be booked.
A wedding far in the future, on the other hand, may hang over your head like a cloud of worry if you are someone who gets stressed out over large tasks. In this situation, you may wish to think about cutting your engagement short. There are no incorrect answers in this game. It will be a full-on race to the finish line if you schedule a wedding date six months after your engagement, but you will find a way to get it done, and some individuals thrive under pressure.
Make a list of any dates that have special meaning for you
How romantic would it be to marry on the day you first met, the day you became a couple or the anniversary of your grandparents? Some cultures select dates using traditional ways; for example, Japanese families consult the komioyomi, an old astrological calendar, to choose the most auspicious day. You may not be able to marry on the exact day you want—that particular date could fall on a Monday, or the location you want might be booked—but you can probably come fairly close. (Tip: In your ceremony programs, you may explain any importance of the time to your guests.)
Choose your favorite season
The weather has an impact on not just the design and location of your wedding, but it may also assist establish the tone. Consider your wedding personality before deciding on a season. You want drinks that are free-spirited, lively, and tropical-inspired, as well as sun-dappled settings?
Opt for a summer wedding. Do you fantasize about luxury, snowfall, and holiday glitz? Consider having your wedding in the winter. An autumn wedding is great for rich hues, nostalgia, and mulled apple cider, while a spring wedding is definitely more your style if you like freshness, pastels, and a daisy bouquet.
When Is the Most Economical Time to Get Married?
Your money may play a significant role in determining the best wedding date for you. June, September, and October, for example, are three of the most popular wedding months, thus costs will undoubtedly be higher. For your location and all of your suppliers, you'll have to compete with a swarm of other couples. Due to the holidays of Valentine's Day and Christmas, the months of February and December are also wedding hotspots.
If you want to save money on your wedding, plan it for a non-peak month when you'll be more likely to find lower rates and a wider variety of venues and suppliers. March, April, and November are usually the cheapest months to be married.
It's also important to consider the days of the week: Saturday evenings are the most expensive but married during the week and the world is your oyster (venues may even bid against each other to get your business).
What about vacations?
If you've always dreamed of having a Christmas tree at your wedding or a heart-shaped wedding cake, you're a holiday wedding pair. Do you want to honor your Irish ancestors? Choose March, when everyone is already celebrating St. Patrick's Day. Try a pastel-themed wedding with an Easter egg hunt in March or April. Celebrate the Fourth of July with flags, barbeque, and fireworks. A plus: Some holidays occur on long weekends, making them more accessible to out-of-town visitors. On the other hand, some guests may not want their holiday weekends disrupted by a wedding, so keep that in mind.
Inquire about your VIP visitors' preferences
But only the top-tier, wouldn't-get-married-without-them kind of guests: If you just have a few choices, you may want to check with your family and friends to see if there are any date conflicts so you can prepare appropriately. If you ask anybody outside of your core group of parents, siblings, and honor attendants, be aware that this is a dangerous slope. Keep it simple and firm after you've chosen a date.
Certain dates should be avoided
There are some wedding dates that you should avoid. It's not a good idea to get married the weekend before tax day, particularly if one of you is an accountant or a tax attorney. You probably have your own crunch period at work, regardless of your profession, so don't marry at that time. Either you'll be anxious or you'll find it tough to go on your honeymoon. Furthermore, your faith may specify that certain seasons of the year, or even days of the week, are off-limits.
When Is the Best Time to Get Married?
Are you superstitious, or do you wish to respect your religious or cultural heritage by picking a lucky wedding date? We understand. There's nothing wrong with making sure the stars are in your favor on your big day.
Tuesdays are said to be a fortunate day for weddings in Jewish tradition. God declares the third day of the week to be beneficial in the Torah. Tuesday is the best day for people who want to remember their Jewish roots.
Do you have a smidgeon of Irish blood in you? Then plan your wedding on December 31st, New Year's Eve. The Irish consider this day to be auspicious. Furthermore, what better way to begin a new year than with a new spouse at your side?
Dates containing the numbers eight or nine are considered fortunate by people who wish to follow Chinese custom. The word "eight" rhymes with "long-lasting," while the word "nine" rhymes with "wealth." The Chinese New Year is likewise a very fortunate day, but the exact date varies from year to year due to a complicated computation of lunar events.
Finally, history enthusiasts might consider having their wedding in June. Juno, the Roman goddess of marriage, is honored this month. Couples that observe her month will undoubtedly be rewarded. Learn about all of the most auspicious wedding days.