We all definitely have at least one goal that sounds fairly insane, like there’s no way we could accomplish it, or that we’re crazy to think that we can do it. I want to advise you to not give up on that insane, out-of-this-world goal of yours. Because, who knows what may happen while you strive to accomplish that dream?! As I will be beginning my final year of college come August, I have been thinking a lot about what I will want to do once I graduate. Where do I want to live, what do I want to do for a livelihood, how do I want a normal day in my life to go? It’s stressful, folks.
It may be frustrating to have parents who don't support your goals in college, but we're here to encourage you and offer you some advice on where to go from here!
What do I want to do? Well, I’m not entirely sure, but I would love to work for myself and have the freedom to explore many different things. As relaxing as a routine maybe, I would enjoy a job where each day is a little bit different. That way, there’s no repetition to make me desire Fridays and moan about Mondays.
My parents? They’re a bit less confident about me working for them. I still love them, and they still love me, but they don’t really understand why I would want to be an internet company owner or what I would do…especially when it comes to health insurance and retirement plans. Don’t get me wrong, such plans are wonderful to have in place, but to me, they’re not worth accepting a job which makes me miserable.
So, what should you do if your parents aren’t supportive of your dreams? Read on, pals.
1. Educate Yourself
It’s essential to study everything that you can about what your ideal career, education, or life will involve. How much does it cost? How much can you make? What are the hours like? These questions and many more are excellent things to ask while contemplating a particular profession or school option. You want to understand all of this so that you may know, with as much confidence as you can, that this is the decision for you. That way you can.
2. Educate Your Parents
It may take a little bit of work on your side to really speak to your parents when you already know that they’re not exactly thrilled about your goals, but it’s essential. Tell your parents all that you have learned about what it takes to pursue your goal. You may either sit down and have a conversation all at once, write a letter, or even split it up into small pieces while you go about studying everything yourself.
When you go to speak to your parents, make sure to tell them everything. Not only will they respect how committed you are to your goal, but will also probably want to conduct some study themselves. If you leave out the negative things (you know, the lack of health insurance, or the area that you may have to live in to perform your ideal job), they will find that out. If you tell them upfront, you can defend yourself and explain to them how you will get by.
Taking the health insurance example, investigate costs for health packages in your nation or state (assuming you aren’t fortunate enough to live in a country with universal health care, that is). See what the costs are, then decide how you will pay for it. If you don’t earn a ton of money, you may qualify for some help. Check with your state or city.
3. Make A Plan
There may sometimes be a lot of expenses involved with following your goals. Write up a strategy with a budget, all expenses, how you will fill those expenditures, and what you intend to do if it doesn’t work out at first. Will you obtain a part-time job? Work odd jobs? Think about this, and then report back to your parents. They will view you as much more serious about your goal.
4. Accept That You Can’t Change People
If your parents are still wary of your dream, that’s alright. You have done a lot to try to persuade them or alleviate their concerns, and it didn’t work. That doesn’t imply you should give up or seek anything else. You may have to work a bit harder if they are reluctant to financially support you, but if it is what you truly want, it will be worth it.
5. Do What You Can To Pursue Your Dreams
Your dreams are vital. You have undoubtedly spent a lot of time working on your goal, whether that be playing your instrument or writing. That time shouldn’t be squandered in order to satisfy someone else. If you truly want to do something different, that’s one thing. If you do anything for your parents or friends, you won’t be as pleased as if you did the thing that you want to do.
I hope you found these ideas useful. Your dreams are worth it, and you are worth it. Don’t attempt to alter yourself to suit the mold of anybody else. If your dreams appear a bit wild or unrealistic, that’s alright!
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